Feeling like you and your spouse or partner are out of sync? This happens in most relationships, and it’s completely possible to get back on track.
Here are some ways you can reconnect with your partner this year:
Prioritise your relationship
You and your partner should be on the same team, and you should aim to protect your relationship. Unfortunately, many people fail to prioritise their relationship- particularly once they’ve been married for a while or kids have come along. This mental shift can take work- you’ll need to take time to work on your relationship, have discussions, and make decisions based on what’s best for both of you.
Create rituals and routines like morning coffee together, breakfast in bed on Sundays, a chat before you go to sleep or Saturday night date nights.
Take time out
Sometimes, you just need to get away from all the outside pressures on your relationship. These include stresses like family, work, friends, and even the kids. One of the best things you can do is relax on a romantic break. If you book in advance you can often get a great deal and will have plenty of one-on-one time where you can reconnect and remember just why you make such a good team.
Ask if things are good for your relationship
When you’re bumping up against important decisions in your relationship, don’t just talk about whether it’s good for you and your partner. Make a point of discussing whether it’s also good for your relationship. If you stop and think about it, you’ll intuitively know the answer. It could come down to how much it will take away from your time together, whether things will become stressful, or if it will involve someone who threatens your relationship.
Cheer for each other
One of the most important things to consider is whether you’re cheering each other on in your daily lives. It sounds simple, but it’s important that you celebrate each other’s successes and have each other’s best interests at heart. Encourage each other, give each other praise, and make it evident that you’re in their corner- whatever the outcome.
Schedule time for your relationship
Your relationship shouldn’t be relegated to time you have leftover. When you’re working out your schedule, start with things that can’t be changed like work commitments, and then add in date times before you add in activities like shopping, golf, and volunteering.